Brian: I am a workaholic who rarely takes days off.I no longer set an alarm clock and prefer to just wake up when the time is right. Brian: Brunette, skinny/athletic with a wild wit, thin morals and a disdain for outward displays of material excess.So Romeo and Juliet meet at a party (I know, I'm mixing Shakespearean metaphors -- just go with it! They see each other across a crowded room, they feel a spark of attraction, they exchange some witty banter, and then suddenly they're separated by their entourages' conflicting plans. But here is where the similarities between your story and R&J's story end.Luckily, they travel in similar circles and are able to get some dirt on each other. How did Romeo go about reconnecting with his lady love?
I met a man at my friend's birthday party - should I friend request him? What does it mean if he doesn't confirm me right away?
A less direct approach takes some of the risk and uncertainty out of the requesting. Fortunately, there are strategies and social skills to covertly ask for what you want.
In fact, there are a number of compliance gaining strategies (ways to get others to do what you want) - some that don't require directly asking at all (Kellermann & Cole, 1994).
You get them to do what you want by proposing it subtly as an alternative. - This approach gets someone to do what you want by putting them on the defensive.
It turns the tables and has them try to come up with reasons why they shouldn't comply (which is difficult). Example: These techniques are both indirect and effective. While they avoid the awkwardness of asking directly, they can be construed by some as a bit manipulative (especially the "stronger" versions).